February 24, 2008
Millionaire Matchmaker
I don't know how many people have seen the new show "Millionaire Matchmaker" on Bravo but it is a show where men, usually over 40, who are millionaires and looking for love pay a matchmaker to find the "right" women for them but a process of interviews, trial dates and then they select two women they are interested in getting to know better. While watching the show this weekend, a millionaire took one of his potential "final dates" to a go-kart race center where they proceeded to race around. When the man beat the women, she said "Obviously he has never heard the rule that you are always suppose to let the women win" and he responds "I guess I never have heard of that?". I just thought it was interesting that although this is a rather trivial rule, it is obviously something that people take into account.
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This is an interesting point if you think about it. I think about the same situation if it were me and my boyfriend. I have never felt that we should obey this rule. In fact, he usually is the one that beats me and I could really care less. My boyfriend is a lot more competitive than me, therefore I don't really care about losing a video game or a contest against him. I really do not like this rule at all the more I get to thinking about it. I can get a sense of why this woman was upset by being beat in go-karts, but do most people really see this as a real rule for a relationship? In my opinion, I think in a relationship when one wins something the other should be happy for him/her. They are together and as long as one is winning, how can the other take offense to their loss? I personally see this as selfish and maybe even a sign that he/she is ready for a commitment. What do you think?
Funny you brought this up, I was just watching this episode today, as ashamed as I am to admit it. What a goofy show! I have to tell you this story - my roomate and her fiance drive me freaking crazy when it comes to games or anything competitive we do. As freshman in college we all used to hang out together, and whenever we'd play cards, he'd cheat to help her win. It always pissed me off! I hate it when people cheat at games, and he'd do it every time just to make sure she'd win. Anyone else ever dealt with something like this? Eventually I just stopped playing games with them.
I caught an episode the other day, and something that stood out for me was when these women were using this dating service, and the head lady told the professional woman, to get hair extensions, act like she isn't independent and successful at her job so she looks and sounds more appealing to this millionaire man. I was thrown back by this, that women were so ready to change their life just so they could have a chance to date this millionaire. The girl without questioning it, got hair extensions, and changed her style and never mentioned being a succesful businesswoman. Why would you want to change who you are and dumb yourself down to get the guys of your dreams? is this common?
I have watched this show and I have to start out by saying I think it is pretty rediculous, but at the same time I have, by choice, sat through more than one episode. I don't particularly think that this rule is a good rule or really like it at all. It's just go-karts, why does it matter? At the same time there shouldn't be that competitiveness in a loving relationship. WHat ever happened to it's all fun and games?
Ya, I think this show is pretty ridiculous as well! The "matchmaker" gets the girls to act and dress a certain way that will attract her millionaire. Why do this? He true self has to come out...she can't be fake for him forever!
And also, the "letting her win" rule...I don't know if it's a great rule, but I do like it! It kinda says that the guy cares about your feelings, and doesn't want to be greedy by winning. :)
I’ve unfortunately come to watch almost any show Bravo comes out with, so I know exactly what this post is about. It is quite sad that this is what the world has come to. People are so busy trying to create “successful” lives (mostly circling around a career and making oodles of money) that they can’t even waste time trying to find a significant other. You would think that at some point you get tired of living the same monotonous life, look around, and realize that something huge is missing.
I think shows like this really illustrate how dependent our culture is becoming on various services. We have services to do our laundry, take care of our children, furnish and style our homes, make our food, etc. This is really just the icing on that cake. Is this trend because we are lazy? Or because we are too busy? Is it to create jobs? Do we really need these kinds of services? It’s just absolutely ridiculous to me that these people don’t want to get out and find and experience love on their own. I would never want that decision to lie in someone else’s hands. While I see the convenience of it all, doesn’t it take out the fun? I know I loved being surprised at the fact that I don’t know where Mr. Right is, that he could be around any corner, that I don’t know when I might meet him. Services like this just seem to force people onto each other. I mean I guess these people have commonalities. All of them enjoy money, since that is the main selling point. It just seems kind of like a pimping agency or something to me I guess.
Going back to the original topic, there’s a great clip from the TV shows Scrubs that really hammers this situation home. JD and his girlfriend have been dating for only a few weeks so they are in what is referred to as the “Cute/New” stage while JD’s roommate and best friend Turk and his wife Carla have been together for over a year. Now the two couples are hanging out together and in one instance they are arm wresting. JD lets his girlfriend win while Turk completely annihilates Carla. Carla eventually starts comparing the two couples and realizes that she is unhappy with where her and her husband’s relationship has gone. If you watch Scrubs as regularly as I do, you probably know the episode I’m talking about.
It is interesting that there are certain rules, especially on first dates. When thinking more about it, in today’s society is it better to play by chivalry’s rules, or has our society finally outgrown those rules? I know our survey in class proved that a lot of us still think in an old fashioned manner, but is that just because we’re from the Midwest where things tend to be a bit more on the conservative side? Maybe. Or maybe it’s the fact that women still desire romance in their lives. Maybe we are traditional in the ways we have been socialized. I mean we all watch those romantic, sappy movies where the first dates are perfect, but are we expecting too much? Is romance still alive?
I hate the rule let the girl win. I don't like cheaters and it would not make me feel good to be let win and not deserve it. For me, it's not a good way for showing affection. Its like the woman is not good enough so the men have to let her win. This kind of inequality is what i though we have been trying to disolve for so long!
I have to agree with classblogger, I also hate the rule. I think that a competition should be just that… a competition. I think it's ridiculous to let someone win because it is expected of you on the date. I would hope that my relationships would be honest. It's disturbing to think that the first date could already be infesting the potential relationship with unrealistic expectations and dishonesty. I think if you have to cheat in order for the first date to go well… you either need a different first date option or a serious look at how old you are and whether or not you're ready for a relationship.
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