I found this article online and thought it was interesting. It goes along with what we talked about in class about the games we play. Even nonverbal communication can say a lot.
http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=8950&TrackingID=516311&BannerID=544657&menuid=6>1=10886
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This is interesting and yet I would think some what true. When someone is "into you" they are going to treat you a little bit differently. They may do one or all of these signs to show you that he like you and want to get to know you on a different level. I don't think I would lonly judge a man on these signs because he might have a different way of showing he cares. However if he is showing some of these signs I think he is show interest in you.
I wonder if these are unwritten rule for men to follow if they are into someone?
I call bullshit on the "he's not into you if he looks at your mouth." According to the article, this means he's desperately trying to avoid eye contact. I don't know about you all, but I'm one of those people where I generally don't stare into the eyes of the person I'm talking to, even when I am really interested in them. I'm an animated talker and I look around when I'm talking to others.
After today's discussion I was completely confirmed in my survey attempt, in rules for men and women. This article frankly doesn't do anything for me, the idea for someone trying to put a list of things for people being "into you" is ridiculous. First not only does every rule and every sign change for every person, but who gets to decide on whats a good and bad rule. In my opinion, women make all the rules, most of the rules that I saw even that men were discussing, were in coherence with a female rule. Females get to dictate what kind of rules men follow. And after today's discussion of girls having men on such a small grey line, how are men ever supposed to win?
I think a lot of these rules are valid. They are not lessons to live by, but I think they are good guidelines. The rule about body language in the way guys stand I was interested in. I currently watched some men i was around and i did notice the way the stand at oblique angles. I noticed that it was very common especially in circumstances in which was more of a professional or initial meeting. When you have an intimate relationship with someone, they don't stand like that. They do in fact stand face-to-face. So some of these are good cues to take.
I hate this article but find it scarily accurate. I conflictingly agree with Royaltenebaum that I also feel women make most of these rules up, yet I find myself doing these very same things subconsciously when I am interested in a person of the opposite sex that I like. And for what it's worth, if you are an "animated talker" as described by Kiki,I would have to call bullshit on anyone with that communication style. People that can't focus on the conversation generally don't seem to be interested in the other person or the conversation. Of course there are many cultures that consider eye contact during a conversation offensive, but Kiki never mentioned he/she was from another country. Of course once you realize that you may be showing too much interest, the "rules" kick in and all of the sudden one finds them self (consciously) trying to do just the opposite to avoid being seen as "too interested". And like the article says "Signs.." NOT "Rules.." that he may be in to you. And I feel signs may be more bioligically (subconsciously)driven.
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