Usually when we hear the word agressive we think the person is talking about men. In one of my communication classes we were talking about agressivness and how women can actually be more agressive. At first I was caught off guard. I was thinking about how men tend to be joking around with their buddies and sometimes make jabs that are to harsh and end up getting into a small fight. During this fight they become agressive with their actions. In class we were talking about how people are agressive with words. This is were women being more agressive come into play. As little girls grow up they are told to be kind and caring. They shouldn't raise their voices. If they are upset they need to be forgiving and should get mad. This gives girls little chances to let their feelings out. Boys on the other hand are told to let people know if they are upset or mad. It's ok for them to raise their voice. This continues through out boys and girls lives. Boys continue to let their feelings show while girls have to keep it to them self. Or do they?
As girls grow older they begin to have enemies with other girls. We see many girls get hurt feelings from other girls who go behind their best friends back. They talk about them in mean ways making others go against them as well. We don't usually see this with boys becauuse they let the person who the have a problem with know they have a problem with them. Girls go about it in another way and a more agressive about it.
We see these same kinds of action in the movie Mean Girls. There is a group of girls who are considered popular. Although they are a select group people for some reason most of the girls in the school look up to them and want to be them even though they realize they are horrible girls. These girls spread horrible rumors and get the other girls in bad positions. Now this is an exageration of what most high school girls are like but is that far off?
What do you think?
Are girls more agressive than boys?
5 comments:
Agressiveness levels could also relate to the fact that when men/boys fight with each other as soon as the fight is over they forget about it. Women/girls on the other hand seem to carry it with them for the next few days. For those next few days they will be verbally agressive. One time being agressive (men/boys) versus numerous times being agressive (women/girls). With that in mind it is easy to see why people would consider females to be more agressive.
I think it solely depends on the individual and the circumstance surrounding it. Most of the girls I know are not aggressive at all. I personally tend to be a lot more physically aggressive than the average female because I have been a victim of gender violence. It took me a long time to deal with the psychological effects and I still do not cope with it as I should. When I feel wronged by a male in any way, I act out in hostile ways. For example if a guy touches me even remotely inappropriately, I punch him or do whatever possible to get him far away from me. It is a reflex that has developed because of my lack of patience and trust in men (as said by my therapist). SO the answer to this question is, yes in some circumstances women are more aggressive than men.
i think that girls can definitely be as aggressive as boys, but it is generally a different kind of aggression. While boys are generally more physical, the words that girls say to each other or about each other are often just as aggressive.
I agree with the last post - maybe girls are aggressive but it seems to be taken out in a different way. It often seems to be more verbal and spiteful than men who come to blows and move on.
I think this kind of mentality is als why many girls go behind each others back and hold grudges, while they boys will fight it out and hen go back to being friends. The girls are taught that they must be nice to others and not get mad while the boys can do all of the yelling and fighting that they want.
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